The Upbuild Enneagram Library
Welcome to the Upbuild Enneagram Library. We’re glad to be on this journey with you.
We’re two former monks, a former startup founder and CEO, and a former investment bank executive…who met in a NYC monastery.
Over the past two decades, we’ve used the Enneagram to help countless individuals and organizations see themselves more clearly and start to break free from the shackles of the ego.
Drawing on years of teaching, coaching, and lived experience, we’ve created this podcast as a deep library of Enneagram knowledge to support you in the most meaningful journey there is: the journey from the ego to the true self.
The Upbuild Enneagram Library
Parental Orientation: Attachment, Frustration, and Rejection in the Enneagram
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Every Enneagram Type carries a specific relationship to nurturing and protective energy. That relationship begins in childhood, but it does not stay there. In this episode, Vipin, Hari Prasada, and Rasanath unpack Parental Orientation, the Object Relations framework that explains attachment, frustration, and rejection across all nine Types.
They explore how each Type internalizes the nurturing and protective functions and how those early adaptations shape adult behavior, leadership style, relationship patterns, emotional tone, and even our unconscious bias toward strength and softness.
By mapping the three relational stances onto the Enneagram, they reveal a precise psychological matrix that helps explain why we seek certain energies, resist others, and feel chronically disappointed in specific ways.
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